My stand - BaekYeon Couple

Apparently I did not blog anything about SNSD's Taeyeon being in a relationship with EXO's Baekhyun for 4 months already. Jeez, Kim Taeyeon is like my second bias in SNSD and I am left out blogging about it. Actually there is a reason to blog and say something about it after the scandal, the hiss and buzz from netizens and backlash of Korean people. I have said it before after Yoona's admission of being in a relationship with Seunggi that when SNSD's Taeyeon, Jessica and Tiffany admit their relationship then there will be a lot of flipping tables and chairs. Although Tiffany's admission to in a relationship with Nichkhun of 2pm (that I didn't blog about too) didn't really have negative buzz because really they have been friends for a long time and people even thought they have always been in a relationship for 4 years lol! But then it is true that SNSD's Taeyeon's admission really had a lot of hates. Not only because Taeyeon is like the most popular female idol of this generation, she is in a relationship with a member of the most popular boy band in Korea right now - EXO that has been into controversy after Kris left (blogged about it :P) Baekhyun. Baekhyun has always been a self-confessed fan of SNSD's Taeyeon even before and a lot of fans were even shipping them but right now that it came true it looks like the reaction has been reversed. Crazy fans!

Let's just no talk about their age difference. Like seriously, even teenagers can date okay! Although I understand that some fans might not accept the relationship but I don't understand why they have to call Baekhyun a traitor on a live show! And then this... For real?! What the hell is happening with the world? 

Do I sound upset?

Because I really am upset about it! It's ridiculous really, why? Can they not date? 

I understand that they are public property because being called celebrities and their popularity are owed to the fans but they actually became idols because of their talents and not because of their personal lives that is supposedly ought to be kept and it's not ought to be meddled by the public! You love them fine, you hate them fine! But these fans (haters) should not go down to this level hurting people who just happened to fell in love. What's HUMANITY? Just at least respect them as people who have feelings too and  they are not even perfect! If they chose to be silent about their relationship then it is their life and it's also because they don't want their relationship to be pressured by the public so they can last. Being called names with no basis is extremely unacceptable. How Baekhyun could have been humiliated about being called a traitor? 

How Taeyeon could have cried in the airport and apologizing when there is no reason to be?

I have mentioned before that Taeyeon is a very sentimental and emotional idol. She has always loved fans as well even created an Instagram account for the fans to see what she is doing, heck! Fans should have even be thankful for sharing a piece of her when she doesn't really have to. I remembered the time that she have written a message to J-Sone in concert to say how thankful she is "being loved and how to be loved" by people and she was like half crying. 

This could also threaten the lives of other idols who wanted to date. And might also lead to separation of Baekyeon-couple and to other idols that are dating secretly right now. Maybe depending on who dates with who. But this new scandal right now of Taeyeon and Baekyun is really getting out of hand. I hope SM would do something to protect their artists. sigh.

really sad and feel sorry for Taeyeon :(

How to Save?

I am so sure that I am the wrong person to blog about this but maybe atleast when I get to read it I will be more inspired to - SAVE.

SAVE money - for the past 6 years that I have been working I never did this and am I regretful? Yes and No. 

Yes because I know I could have done it and NO because I know I was able to use my money on important things. Yes because I feel like I could have practically done a lot of things like travel in/out Cebu but NO because I know I was able to help my family for the past 6 years. Yes because I could have bought something useful and worth-keeping that is expensive but NO because I was able to do memories still eating out with friends and helped my brother finish school. But Yes because I could have done all the reasons when on NO's if I was able to save.

I was able to read some blogs and most of the successful people I know and known to other people always say they Save a lot. WHHHYYY CANT I DO IT?

Miss Gina my favorite trainer once told me that the secret is SAVE first and then spend. That's like her motto. She was able to travel a lot of places already because most of the time she save and enjoy her savings later on.

Miss Lizzie my manager once said she regretted that she did not save money at an early age. She could have done so much already. She started saving when she was 26 years old and was highly influenced by her then-boyfriend, now-husband. Before they got married last year they already have their own house and car and prior to getting married they have been to places here inside Philippines already.

Miss Shelley my other manager/friend said that she is really keen into saving. Eversince she never had expenditure that she was guilty of. She was able to develop their own house, letting her friends borrow money from her and able to support her younger brother to finish school. And now,she is still saving even if she's married.

An old friend told me before that I have to save and only let go of the money that you wont be regretful to spend or give or borrow. 

Okay, these people are like older than me and even being paid more than my wage. But still when will I ever start?

Recently I started reading Bianca Gonzales's blog and I saw a lot of people there - and mind you SUCCESSFUL people there who always say they are good at saving and look where they are now.. That also includes Bianca herself.

Karen Davila a very successful news anchor said : “I am a very big saver. For some time now, I’ve been saving 80 percent of what I earn.”

Ha Ji Won is also good in saving as a matter of fact she was awarded before for Prime Minister Award for Savings. 

Boy Abunda a successful celebrity as well is known for being a good saver and you can just imagine how much he invested. Even if he is getting a lot of money most of the time he saves it too. 

I know I have a lot of things to buy, a lot of places I wanted to go, and goals to achieve. And even if they say that money is not everything I wish I could also realize that money is almost everything. 

Right now, I am starting to save and hopefully I can keep this promise. I wanted to go places this year. As what they say go to one place that you have never been to once a year and that is my ultimate goal atleast before I could get married. You have to know and budget your expenses. But save first. 

Nega 101

What is more annoying from a friend who would ask for you advice and but then wont follow it?
It's funny how someone asks you for an advice but then would go the opposite from what was advised. Really funny. Not.
Like really? what was that for? after all cursing and crying you'd still go the other way from what was advised. argh! i cant.. hjshdjahe pft!

I'd rather you not say anything instead than making me feel stupid as if I was giving all the right things to advise and then..nada!

seriously!!??

I hate people who would just close the elevator even if they know someone is about to go inside pa! asarrr!!! lami kaayo sunugon!

Bad Girl.

When I created this blog, I was expecting that I would have a lot of negative things, rants, complaints and emotional problems to be posted but it was different from what I have been doing for the past few days. Maybe because there were always reasons for me to be happy. Well, I am very mababaw kind of person getting a corny message from my boyfriend would make me feel happy, seeing my mama cooking for me/us already makes me happy, making someone happy makes me feel happy and seeing Gdragon smiling would make me smile and heart flutters LOL.

I am like that.

I am very patient with my family, friends, work and less for my boyfriend. LOL. I always think of other people before I would think for myself. That may be is the reason why I am so sensitive because I always think what they think and what makes them happy. It seems as if I am trying to please them or making them think that I am always kind.

But to be honest I am not at all that goody-good girl, although I can also say that I am a good girl because I am really conscious on the things that I do and act. But the bad side of me is that getting annoyed for the wrong reasons, getting upset over nonsense things, get jealous without any reasons to be, pretend that I do when I don't and being too much of a good girl which is very annoying!

But let me make it clear that I am not like that all the time, I came to understand things, people and situation and I can adjust, I even talk to myself telling me that I shouldn't do that. But sometimes, you just really want to explode and wants to nag, rant, and do all the bad stuff that I have in my head but at the end I still keep it. I think I rarely complain nowadays and I am sad that most of the time I tell it to my boyfriend who also has his own issues. :(

Today, I just feel so un-happy. I am so annoyed. And I do not know if it's because I have been keeping this feeling for a long time that every little things that happen would just get into my nerve and would make me mad. Imagine? Just seeing that old friend's nuisance annoys me. Someone just took my swivel chair and I was already  annoyed. We get a lot of calls when it is my job to take calls I get annoyed. Although I try my very best not to be obvious when talking to my callers but when I am not, it is already written all over my face. BACK OFF!

That's me. I am not all that good. Maybe at times or most of the times, I am mean, irrational, upsetting.

Engagement Plans

Posted on April 7, 2013 | Leave a comment | Edit

Since the second quarter of 2012 I have been hearing different chatters about engagements, pre-nups and weddings. Last year I had like three people who are kinda close to me that told me they will get married this year. So yes it all ended – thank God! LOL

I really never thought about Weddings and such, I mean as a woman everyone wants to be wearing that bridal gowns right? But then again, I am too realistic of life that I’d rather be single for a long time or living-in with a partner. After these close people I am with at work told me they are going to get married I got a different kind of excitement..not for myself but for them. And on the preparation I realized it’s kinda hard thing to do and difficult to plan and achieve those but it was all worth it because when that big day came, all the definitions of HAPPINESS were actually written all over their faces and it made me so happy, touched and overwhelmed. I realized then, so that is the feeling and I have to have that feeling soon. Maybe not now, but soon!  

Engagement

Given that you are already in a relationship and wanted to settle with that person, the first step should be engagement. Most of my friends who got married really doesn’t have long engagement. Usually, after getting engaged for a few months they get married after all the preparations. And I feel like that fact is already given so I would like to change my course.

• Engagement Plan

So I was thinking of having a long term engagement. It doesn’t matter if I have been in a relationship with that guy for like less than a year or so but the engagement must be longer than a year. Say, 2-3 years of being engaged would be fine. Like I have mentioned I wouldn’t really mind that living-in stage as part of engagement plan. Why? This usually applies if you have been in a relationship with someone for a couple of months of less than 2years only. You know, it’s important to get to know who you’ll be marrying to, his habits, his attitude when you are together from the moment he wakes up and before he sleeps and everything in between. I want to know them before I settle and live in a house with them after the wedding.

Morality

Of course, not everyone would understand my excuse about living-in right? They would usually say that ” what’s the sense of getting married when you are already living-in?’ Because MARRIAGE/MATRIMONY is a Sacrament as a Catholic wherein you face God and ask permission to live with that partner for the rest of your life until death do you part. Of course I honor and respect that. But lemme ask you otherwise, would marriage really be a guarantee of everything? NO.

Although YES you get married because you love each other, you PROMISE to each other to be faithful and all but it’s not a guarantee that one of the parties would be LOYAL.

What if you do not like the habits of your partner after getting married and live with them in the same roof? Either you will bare it and get used to it OR you will keep on arguing about it.  For me, that is what engagement is for. That is why as much as possible it should be a long-term engagement.

Puhlease, do not ever tell me that you will ONLY get laid after marriage. For all I know even before engagement when you were still “In A Relationship” you have already did it  *cough* MORALITY *cough*.

Say you never did IT even before in a relationship, or during being engaged and you will do IT after marriage. Aside from the partner who would really want to do it with you before the wedding  unless if you would have a boyfriend like Edward Cullen or something, I think it would really be normal for a guy to ask you to do it together before marriage….and sooo much for that I don’t even wanna explain further. But anyway, say you want to do it AFTER the wedding, how will you know you are compatible? How will you know you will like it? How will you know that he would like it? What if one of you either is not satisfied with IT or doesn’t like IT? Would one of you be passive, or patient enough to accept it or bare with it? After-effects on that would either be boring marriage life, or one would look for someone else who can give them satisfaction. And so much for that.

So going back to living in, I am not closing my doors for that… We can travel together wherever, I can certainly do that already since I am engaged to marry him anyway. We would be able to discover each other flaws and all, learn to accept the difference and treasure the similarities. Should there be a problem along the way atleast we can either cool it off or break it up while we aren’t married yet. 

We have to have a house of our own while we are engaged. Certainly no babies while engaged since that will really dispute the purpose of marriage. I don’t even think engagement ring is necessary (though I’d like to have it) but then, if not then it’s fine still 

But again, this is MY Engagement Plan, and I cant do anything if you wont agree with it. You have to make your own and I promise I wouldn’t care what would it be. Next up would be Pre-nup! 

I'M NOT A BLOGGER

As I tried to post something to blog about I always end up not able to finish it. Before I created this new blogsite  I told my self I have to write it from notepad first and then read it again and again make sure there are no grammatical errors and spellings are correct and paste it here. But after I write a whole lot in a notepad I always..like ALWAYS lose my momentum and decide not to finish it at the time and will never get to finish it at all. I am lazy like that.

Why I lose my momentum?

I have this innate personality that I always think ahead or advance. I want to impress and yet I get insecure on some other’s blog posts. I am a fan of bloggers especially fashion blogs, and most of them are same ages as mine but they are already so good on what they are doing (salute them). In defense, I am still starting. But to be honest, I am not. I have been blogging..secretly. LOL. But I think I never improved.

My insecurities.

NO. 1 is always about the language. I am kinda confused if I have to blog in plain english, taglish, or perhaps add all the languages that I know (languages daw o?). My concern is that of course, I cannot really express myself and emotions would not get out from me if it’s not in my 1st language. And sometimes, it’s kinda cute to express it in bisaya or hangul. LOL. As if I really know Hangul? LOL. I have to consider those who are reading if they would be able to understand me. Otherwise, it would be less entertaining.

Entertaining. In line to that, as much as possible I want this blog to be entertaining. I aim to please my readers as much as I can, but how?  Readers now are really smart, they spot the wrongs right away. I admit I also do that but I couldn’t seem to correct my own mistakes. tsssh! You know, sighting something wrong especially grammatical errors are kinda major off when I am reading, so I assume some others are also the same. I admit on my old blogs when I read it and realize there were grammatical errors, I’d just close that window because I feel so ashamed.

Grammatical Errors and vocabulary. I lack at this. As much as I want to improve by reading someone else’s blogs, I am kinda slow-learner. I have to get help from Google, Merriam’s dictionary and someone else’s blogs. This is also one of the reasons why I wanted to go back to school and start basic. But that’s gonna take a long process right?

Oh well, I guess time is the answer for all. I will just keep on blogging and blogging. Even at this moment I have so many things in my mind that I wanted to blog, but I couldn’t let it out. They say, keep it short and simple. The shorter the lesser the mistakes. Is that right? LOL.